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  • Dee 10:07 am on November 10, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    65: The Impossible Coworker 

    One of the factors of making a job bearable is the people you work with, and if you read RTBD you know my customers are dreadful, so coworkers are a big deal. And I’ll admit, I genuinely get along with all of my coworkers – except for one. There is always that one coworker that is so difficult and impossible to get along with. Here’s the problem: She is one of those needy coworkers, who can’t figure out how to do things on her own.  We all have our own vault where we keep our coins and she can never figure out how to open hers. This means she has all her coins locked up all day and that she is using everybody else’s which makes us run low. She gives almost every customer all hundreds, and then runs out and comes to us to buy her own. We’ve told her many times to manage her drawer better and she says, “I manage it just fine, I don’t know what the problem is.” She always asks us to finish tasks that were assigned to her, or waits for us to do it so that she doesn’t have to. Like she was asked to look up a procedure online since she had not properly followed it earlier in the day and out of curiosity and for my own benefit I looked it up too to make sure I was doing it right as well. I looked over at her screen and she was shopping, and then when I found the procedure in question she comes up behind me and asks to look on with me because she can’t find it. It took everything for me to not say, “It’s hard to find something when you’re not looking.”

    I guess it wouldn’t bother me as much if she helped out around the office a bit more. Like at the end of the day when we’re all trying to get out of there, we need to work together to get out on time. She only takes care of her area and then leaves. Doesn’t ask the rest of us if we need help with anything, doesn’t ask if there’s anything she can do to help us get out early, just leaves. Once I asked her for help to just put something away for me because I had a lot of other stuff to get done before I went home. She said “Yeah, sure! No problem!” I come in to work the next day to find I have been written up because it had been left out. I confronted her saying, “You said you would put that away for me last night, and now I got written up for it…” She cut me off saying, “I never said I would do that. If I said I would do it then I would have done it. You never asked me to do it.” And that was that. If I pushed it more I would have gotten heated and it would have ended very badly. And this has happened on more than one occasion! She says she’ll do or has done something and it’s not done and she denies it ever saying it! How can you argue with that? I’ve proven her wrong before, but she just makes excuse after excuse. “I didn’t know that is what I was signing for,” “I thought I did it correctly,” “You should have told me how to do it properly” – anything so she is not to blame!

    I really don’t know what to do. I’m not a tattle tale, but she has thrown me under the bus a couple of times too. I want to say something, but I don’t want her to make things more difficult for me if I do. What would you do?

    P.S. Sorry about the lack of posts, it seems we’ve been having an off week this week. Hopefully we’ll get this figured out soon!

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    • Joe 11:45 am on December 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      When I read your posts, there is a few things, which I think somebody should tell you, because you probably don’t realize:

      1. You seem to have desires for your life which your current way of life cannot support. You are not made for working in a bank.

      2. You seem to have serious problems with anger managment or emotional control. You seem to be more affected by normal events then an average person, are much more pissed PLUS not able to communicate this. You eat up the anger and release it here on the internet, where actually nobody gives a dump yout you. I really urge you to try to tell the people that you are having problems with, that you have problems with their acting. If you don’t, life will just keep screwing you.

      Still, all the best!

  • nocturnalgroaner 4:41 pm on November 5, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    64:Motorcycles and Cigarettes 

    So throughout my K-12 education I had health class basically every other year. The main messages of the classes each time were pretty much the same: smoking is bad and you will get herpes if you have sex. Anyway, I’ve never been too tempted to become a smoker and I’ve never been pregnant so I suppose those classes were successful. Despite thinking they were useless and redundant, health classes generally had strong arguments  about the dangers of drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes. I mean, who would ever want a hole in their throat or tar lungs. Anyway, the teachers and anti-smoking commercials tell you that smoking doesn’t look cool.

    This is WRONG.

    Smoking looks so cool. Watch any black and white movie and observe the beauty and badassness of smoke.

    In real life though, when I see someone smoking outside during the winter, their shaking bare hand moving toward their lips. The glamor of smoking is much less apparent. Also, being in an environment with smokers and having cigarette stank trapped in your clothing and hair is not much fun either.

    Some things should just stay in movies.

    Like motorcycles. They have a lot in common with cigarettes. First of all, motorcycles are extremely unsafe and could possibly lead to death. And most importantly, it is terrible when one is in your presence. Oftentimes people driving motorcycles are assholes when drivng on the road. They cut in front of cars just to show off. And they’re are just loud as hell. No the sound of your engine is not impressive; it’s fucking obnoxious.

    But, I’ll admit, they do look cool on screen.

     
    • Roy 8:11 pm on November 5, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      You know.. I am both a smoker and a motorcycle rider. But I would most certainly have to agree with you. Smoking is a terrible habit; and if I had known as a kid what I know now, I would never have started. But I thought I knew better than everyone else, and blew off their warnings.

      And, as a motorcycle rider, it makes me angry to see other riders darting in and out of traffic, tailgating, and lane-splitting since it tends to give ALL riders a bad name. Riders who ride to garner attention for themselves are the worst ones. And I hate to say it because it makes me feel old, but its much more of an “age” issue than an “activity” issue. It’s usually the younger riders who aim to show everyone on the road how “badass” they are. And it’s usually the younger smokers who still view smoking as a desirable activity. People who are in their 30s and above usually have a more realistic view of these activities. And thirty-something bikers don’t tend to be of the “everybody look at me” variety.

      When I ride, I usually seek out un-inhabited stretches of road to clear my head and enjoy the ride. Something that younger individual just don’t seem to understand.

      • Roy 8:23 pm on November 5, 2010 Permalink | Reply

        I forgot to address the issue of the pipes, though.

        There always seems to be a misunderstanding of loud pipes. There is a term in the motorcycling community that “loud pipes save lives”, and I have to tell you that its entirely true. For some reason, drivers tend to ignore bikers on the road. I can recall one time in San Antonio where a driver pulled out in front of me (despite the fact that I was wearing an orange shirt and was making direct eye-contact with her) and nearly killed me; and then had the audacity to claim that she did not see me or hear me. I have relatively loud exhaust on my bike (but not obnoxiously loud) and she claimed that only the sound of my pipes at the last minute signaled to her my presence. I have no idea how she could not see me as I was doing the speed limit and was practically bathed in bright colors… but apparently my pipes were what saved me that day. They are intended to ensure that even if a driver can’t see you, they will assuredly HEAR you.

        • Roy 9:39 pm on November 5, 2010 Permalink

          However, in an attempt at complete honesty…. I am wholly susceptable to pissyness if the driver in front of me is an imbecile. If they refuse to use turn signals/can’t maintain speed/can’t maintain their lane/brake excessively hard, I won’t refrain from opening the throttle and giving them higher-than-usual decibel intake as I pass them. But I think that’s just human nature.

        • nocturnalgroaner 4:34 pm on November 6, 2010 Permalink

          That’s a good point about the loud pipes. In general, I think roads are too car-dominated. Drivers only focus on other cars, so any other type of smaller vehicles even people are at more risk. I went to Amsterdam and was a bit intimidated to walk around there, because the road infrastructure was so complex: car lanes, tram tracks, bike lanes, and just tons of pedestrians. If traffic was as complex here, people would be much better drivers.

    • Roy 4:42 pm on November 7, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      You are very correct though — there are plenty of douchey bikers out there. The next time you see someone backing up their bike into a parking space while simultaneously revving their engine; ask them if their bike has a reverse gear on it, and when they tell you “no”, ask them why they needed to rev their engine… and watch the hilarity ensue.

  • Dee 5:15 am on November 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    63: On a scale from 1-10… who fucking cares? 

    As you may know from reading “Random Thoughts by Danni” I am not a fan of rating systems. I just don’t like them. However, I have a group of guy friends who are obsessed with ratings and rankings about themselves and others. As the token “gal pal” among a group of guys, I was usually the one they turned to when they wanted a “female opinion”. It was even better when they would get into an argument in front of me and would say, “Ugh, we need a girl’s opinion on this… Hey Danni, you’re a girl!” as if they were just discovering this fact for the first time. And yes, this happened more than once, but I digress.

    There’s the obvious 1 to 10 scale… Like, “yeah, she’s totally a 10” or “she’s a 3 but I banged her anyway”. (Yes, crude, but these are just the things I heard…) I would constantly be asked, “Where do I rank on the scale?… Remember my friend Sully from the party on Friday? What would you give him?” Then there was the argument about how the four guys who shared an apartment ranked according to physical appearance, which of course fell on my shoulders.

    The one that pissed me off the most would have to be the top kisser ranking. You see, one of these guys and I had a fling, it never went very far, but we’d made out a few times. After things ended between us, I went to a bar with some of our other friends and ended up (drunkenly) making out with one of them. I of course got the whole “who’s a better kisser” spiel immediately after, and answered honestly. I later found out that this has been a long running competition between these two guys, and that they really wanted to know the truth, so guy #2 fucking used me to find out! (Guy #1 was unaware that this was the plan all along, though was excited to finally know the answer….)

    To this day, I can’t believe my guy friends took it that far… I really just don’t get it! Is it a guy thing? Or was I just hanging out with a strange group of guys?

     
    • T 12:09 pm on November 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      Sounds like too much testosterone in the room. I dunno that this is “just a guy thing”. I don’t use “ratings” much myself. A girl (perhaps I should say woman here- no disrespect intended by using girl) is either hot and I like her, or not. Some more than others, but I don’t sit there ranking em in my head or even with my buddies. They are do-able or not. And everyone’s threshold is different.
      This is compounded by the fact that, if you know a person- where if you didn’t know them they might not rate, but you like them PERSONALLY so much that your would make that person an exception to your threshold. Odd as that may seem…

      However, generally speaking- we guys do like to know if we were good at kissing (or whatever the item is). It is an esteem / ego boost to know that a lady was satisfied with whatever we were doing. 🙂

      There are a few ladies I would like to know how they would rate me. But my wife wouldn’t like it 😉
      Course if I smile at a waitress my wife doesn’t like it- she’s the jealous type.

      Regards,
      T

    • nocturnalgroaner 4:51 pm on November 6, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I’m always perplexed by which girls guys find hot. I remember some of my guy friends saying they thought Maggie Gyllenhaal was disgusting looking, but I think she’s super pretty.

  • weekendkeyboardwarrior 1:27 pm on November 1, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    62: Home Sweet Home 

     
  • nocturnalgroaner 11:46 am on October 28, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    61: Loaded Terms 

    So I get these emails from some student group called something like the University Women of Color. When I first got an email from this group, I was kind of surprised. I guess, because I’ve never considered myself “colored”. I suppose that it’s an all-encompassing term that means anyone that’s non-white (my dad is white, my mom is asian), so it’s a half-appropriate descriptor for me. But, generally, when the word “colored” is used, it means black. I feel like it’s also a word that is part insult part uber politically correct. It’s hard to explain but it makes me feel uncomfortable .

    Surprisingly,  another word that makes me feel uncomfortable is “woman”. Maybe it’s just because I’m just beginning adulthood or maybe I’m just for some reason seeing the word as a synonym for ultra-feminist. I guess if “woman” justs means female adult than it’s appropriate. And I’m totally fine with being called a feminist, because everyone should be a feminist. These words just feel strange to me because they have such loaded meanings that come with them; I would much rather just be a “person” and be with other “people” than have to identify myself with limiting labels.

    Even though I’m not a member of the University Women of Color and rarely ever read the emails they send me, I still receive them because I guess every once in awhile I like to feel like Pam Grier.

     
  • Dee 7:32 pm on October 27, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    60: It worked for Pam and Jim… 

    Hey there tabbers! Today I want to discuss the controversy that is interoffice romance. We always hear that interoffice relationships are bad and that they are frowned upon, but no one really ever says why.  In fact, if you Google “interoffice relationships” or “why interoffice relationships are bad” it doesn’t offer any reasoning, just tips on how to have a successful one. So what’s all the hullabaloo about?

    Pam and Jim from "The Office" - The best interoffice couple...

    The reason I bring this up, which you’ve probably guessed, is that I have a crush on one of my coworkers  – we are not in a relationship (yet…). Well to be perfectly honest, I have no idea how he feels about me, though he seems to like me well enough. In any case, I’ve mentioned my crush to a few close friends and they’ve all said to stay away with the usual “dating coworkers is bad,” but none could come up with a solid reason why. The only response I get is “It would be awkward if you guys broke up.”

    So what I’ve gathered is that it is not bad to date a coworker, only to break up with a coworker. I’m no fool, I know a break up is possible and is more likely than a happily ever after. However, should the possibility of failure be a reason not to begin a relationship? If so, then there would be no couples to begin with. As for break ups in the work place I think that really comes down to the ex-couple and their level of professionalism. If they are incapable of keeping things professional and make it awkward, then I can understand why people are opposed. However, we are both mature adults who should be able to behave ourselves if such issues should arise.

    Where do you guys stand? Should I risk it and ask him out? Would you? Any additional thoughts? Leave them in the comments!!

     
    • Jules ♂ ♪ 9:47 am on October 28, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I think the problem lies in separating your personal life from work. When you date a co-worker you blur this line. That means things from work might make their way in to your personal relationship and things from your personal relationship may lead their way into work. Like for example, let say you’re dating this co-worker and he let slip something you tend to like do in bed to some friends at work. Well guess what, now your whole office now knows. Or lets’ say you are extremely busy on a project at work and you boyfriend/ co-worker is not. Is there resentment when you get out an hour later and you’re late for your date? Let’s say the worst case scenario that the company goes under, well now you are both out of a job, who supports who?

      It’s not that the relationship can’t be successful; it’s just that there tends to be more outside influences on the relationship than there normally would be. There is more risk to things going wrong and when they do they go really wrong. There are some advantages to dating a co-worker too, but I am not sure they out way the risk. It’s much easier to get to know the people you work with and thus it makes it easier to find someone you want to go out with, but are you willing to quit your job if things go wrong? The interoffice relationship is just extra complexity that isn’t needed.

      That being said, I know of 3 sets of co-works that have gotten married and are still happy, so it goes to show that it can work. You just have to be willing to take on the extra risk if things go wrong. If you can accept that, then I don’t see why you can’t try.

      Do me a favor, when you make your decision really sit down and think about it, this involves your life and future happiness and you don’t want to rush it. At the worse it could mean losing your job and at the best it could mean getting the love of your life. Just make sure you consider the risks before you just jump in head first.

      • Roy 3:28 pm on October 28, 2010 Permalink | Reply

        As I sit here in thwe airport, awaiting my flight, I had planned on writing out a well-thought-out reply to this, but I can see that Jules has beaten me to it and written essentially the EXACT thing that I was going to write.

        Exceptions to the rule only serve to make the rule stronger. Just because a few people have managed to make it out of an inter-office relationship unscathed does not negate the thousands of others who have irreversably altered their lives because of one. If this job means little to you, then by all means… jump right in. But if you value this job, then avoid it at all costs.

        “Happily ever afters” are EXTREMELY rare, even under normal circumstances. And as you get into lower and lower percentage relationships, they become as fabled as unicorns. “Love” is something that advertisers use to sell perfume, not something that happens on a regular basis, don’t bet everything you own on it happening right off the bat.

        • dannifoley 5:37 pm on October 28, 2010 Permalink

          Thanks for the advice guys! This is definitely not something I would just jump into, I would want to take some time to feel things out. It’s funny because I am currently looking into transferring to a different branch for reasons completely unrelated to this. Maybe I should just wait it out until I transfer, just in case 😛

    • Pete 1:14 pm on October 28, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      If you do decide to go on a date, make it very clear that you’re worried/concerned/aware of (delete as appropriate) the issue. Even if he isn’t feeling the same way, you can get it sorted without it being an issue down the line.

      If that means that you decide not to go any further than that date, no harm done and hopefully you get have a nice evening out!

  • weekendkeyboardwarrior 8:45 pm on October 25, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    59: Hello And Goodbye From Chicagoland! 

    Alright, so here I sit in my hotel room in Joliet, Illinois.  I know I told you my next two posts would be of the audio variety, however, the technology at my disposal had other plans.

    This has been one of the most frustrating trips I’ve taken in quite some time.  I’ve spent the majority of this trip huddled up in my hotel room sick as a dog.  Even as I type this, I have one of those hacking “chest cold” types of coughs, as my “flu-like symptoms” have now evaporated into annoying chest congestion.  Over the course of the last week I’ve taken heaping loads of Nyquil/Dayquil/Tylenol PM, and despite all that medication, there were four or five days where I was completely incapable of venturing out into society.  Actually… I was incapable of doing much more than lying in bed and watching Discovery Channel.

    I HATE BEING SICK!  Yeah, I’ll admit it — I’m a baby when I’m sick!  Everything sucks, and it’s all too terrible to bear.  *que sad violin music*

    Anyway, enough of my complaining; the entire purpose of this trip was to play in the World Series of Poker Circuit event in Hammond, Indiana… and I did that — sort of.

    I played in two events when I first got into town (pre-sickness), and did pretty well in one event although I did not win it.  Then I came down with the crud at the worst possible time and was unable to play in the NEXT SEVEN EVENTS!  It felt like the biggest waste of time I’ve ever been involved with in my entire life.  Eventually I felt a bit better and bought into the final event of the tournament despite feeling less than 100%.  I nearly fell asleep twice at the table, though… so as you might expect, I bounced out of that event pretty quickly, but at least I gave it the old college try.  But it still sort of felt like a waste since I had planned on playing in 12 total events and was only able to play in a whopping three events!

    Pam and I at Navy Pier

    I suppose the silver lining of this trip is that my girlfriend was able to fly out for a couple days.  We spent a weekend just enjoying each others company, and we also got a chance to go downtown and spend a day at Navy Pier as well as go see “Blue Man Group” at the Briar Street Theatre… and it was AWESOME!  If you ever get a chance to go see that show, I HIGHLY recommend that you do so.  It was amazing how they constantly kept the audience involved and completely overwhelmed.  They made it totally interactive and kept you guessing what was going to happen next.  There were times when the stunts they did were so outrageous, that you weren’t quite sure if they were real or faked… or HOW they were faked for that matter since they were done literally right in front of your eyes (and less than 20 from you in a small theatre).  But, if you go see this show, the only advice I have for you is:  Don’t be late!  Just Sayin’.

    That’s all I have for you right now since I had to type this entire post out on my phone due to a frustrating lack of hotel internet connectivity.

    I’ll be heading home on Thursday, and I’ll try to get my audio posts up once I hit Albuquerque.  Lata!

     
    • nocturnalgroaner 10:32 am on October 26, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I saw Blue Man Group in Chicago too! It was years ago for a school trip in which I also saw Wicked and kind of dozed off, but Blue Man Group was much more entertaining!

      • Roy 12:21 am on October 27, 2010 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, I was pleasantly surprised. it was an awesome show!

        • dannifoley 7:44 pm on October 27, 2010 Permalink

          I’ve actually never seen Blue Man Group! I’ve always wanted to though…
          And I can’t believe you didn’t like wicked! It’s one of my favorite shows!!

        • nocturnalgroaner 11:55 am on October 28, 2010 Permalink

          I was just super exhausted; I probably dozed for 5 minutes. I didn’t think it was bad. My favorite Broadway musical that I’ve seen is Avenue Q; I haven’t laughed continuously for so long ever.

        • dannifoley 6:11 pm on November 1, 2010 Permalink

          Yes! That’s another good one! I just feel bad for the parents who taker their kids to see it because of the puppets and then…yeah

  • nocturnalgroaner 7:45 pm on October 21, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    58:Typical college movie? 

    I just saw the movie “Easy A”, and it was fine. I would say it was of good quality, I thought parts were truly funny. But it was kind of like any other normal teen/high school movie. There’s the cliques, the popular girls, the “cool” teacher, the nerdy/smart/unnoticed protagonist.  High school movies are pretty ubiquitous and they range in quality from bad/predictable, to cleverish (where Easy A would rank), to horror, to satire and finally some actually just all around great movies like Election or Rushmore. Anyhow, these movies that are set in high school have a definite genre; they possess archetypal characters, a familiar setting, and similar conflicts.

    I guess that there are so many high school movies because it’s such this emotionally heightened experience, and somewhat defining moment of people’s lives. But, as a college student now, I feel like there’s potential for a lot of great movies set in college.  What’s surprising though, is the lack of a “college” genre when compared  to amount and variety of high school movies; especially because they are both comparable experiences. The only kind of typical college movie are ones that glorify the partying and promiscuity of college life, such as Animal House (which is rightfully a classic) but it’s many imitators pale in comparison . While I would expect partying to be an aspect of “the generic but, overall, pretty good college movie”, these movies, like Old School, really limit what the genre could be. Frankly, I can’t really identify with that aspect of college (and what about all the students on dry campuses at super Christian private schools).

    I can only think of one  movie that could be the “Easy A” counterpart of college movies: “PCU”. This should be the movie that you’ve seen a million times but keep on watching. The stoners playing ultimate on the  quad, the in-your-face ultra-liberal protesters, and Balls and Shafts secret society should be as familiar as the cheerleaders and the band geeks.

    I also recently saw “the Social Network”; it’s set mostly at Harvard and kind of really reminded me of everything that is ridiculous about college. For instance, thinking that acapella groups,  trashy-ass house parties , rowing crew and dormitories are cool. There’s a lot of comedy gold there.  For my freshmen year of college I attended UConn, and even though it was a public university, just being in the New England region kind of gave it that preppy collegiate atmosphere (lots of matching brick building added to the experience as well). I visited my friend at Smith College along with her wealthy relatives in Boston, and definitely noticed an air exclusivity and self-importance that must emanate from Harvard like the toxic exhaust (maybe I’m jealous?).

    I’m not really sure why college setting movies aren’t as popular as high school ones. Maybe there really isn’t a typical college experience; the only thing that makes the college experience common among all is binging on alcohol.

     
    • 10loladahl 12:52 pm on October 25, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      The worst thing is that, even if it is a high school movie, the characters never act their age… I’m not saying they are smart (god, no), but they do face “grown up’s” problems. One could easily change the setting of most high school movies to college and it would still make sense.

      • nocturnalgroaner 10:28 am on October 26, 2010 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, I suppose most of the problems in college are only rehashes of the ones in high school…Or that the problems in high school movies usually happen to real people in college? The actors in high school movies are usually never teenagers which when added to the middle-aged screenwriter’s script creates a very unrealistic portrayal of what high schoolers are actually like.

  • Dee 9:14 am on October 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: cheap, cheap bastard, chivalry, , , girls don't pay, guys vs. girls, I found Nemo, inconsiderate, scrooge, sushi   

    57: The Sushi Situation 

    Tanya’s most recent post made me think of an experience I had earlier this year. I don’t think theres anything more annoying than people who are too inconsiderate or too ignorant to tip, but there are other things that drive me crazy about being on the other side – eating out with friends. There’s always that one friend who doesn’t want to split the bill evenly and only wants to pay for what they ate, or the one who orders tons of expensive drinks and then wants to split the bill evenly, or the people who forget to bring cash and stick you with the bill and never pay you back. All of which a very frustrating, but nothing drove me crazier than when I went out for sushi with my friend Mike.

    I have this habit of ordering a little extra food when I go out to eat, that way I can bring some home for later, save me from cooking for another meal. This time was no different, I ordered two sushi rolls and vegetable tempura with rice. I figured I’d bring most of the tempura and rice home, and just enjoy the sushi while it was fresh. Mike ordered some sushi combo plate which worked out to be cheaper than what I got, but at the time I didn’t even think about it since I was getting two meals for just a little bit more. I have no idea how, but Mike must have hoovered his entire meal, because his plate was clean after a few minutes and I was still picking at my tempura.

    That’s when he asked, “Are you going to finish that?” and I answered honestly saying I was planning on bringing it home. Then he asked if he could try it, which I thought was a bit odd considering he didn’t offer me anything he ordered, but I wasn’t going to say no – I figured he’d just try a piece or two. I ran to the bathroom and when I came back he had eaten almost all of the tempura, and certainly more than half of it. I made some comment like “seems like you liked it” but didn’t make a fuss about it.

    That is until the bill came; he put down enough money for what he ordered, not even including tip. I said to him, “Oh I thought we were splitting the tempura? I mean you ate your fair share of it.” I thought this was fair considering the situation, and I didn’t say it rudely or anything. He responded, “No, I didn’t order the tempura, why would I pay for it?” I explained to him again that he ate more than half of the order and he denied it claiming he only ate a few bites and that it was preposterous that I ask for money for it. I gave

    up because I didn’t want to fight over it or cause a scene, but I thought this was the most ridiculous thing I’d ever encountered! In the past I’ve had guy friends pay for my entire meal or my movie ticket just because of chivalry, and I would always make it up to them somehow. Not like that, I mean if I was going over their place to hang out I’d bring something or I’d have them over for dinner. But never had I encountered someone so stingy that they wouldn’t even split something that they ate most of. I still don’t understand his train of thought. Unless he honestly thought he ate a few bites, then he must be delusional, but it would explain the situation a little. However, he didn’t even leave a tip which leads me to believe he is just a cheap bastard.

    I figured I had no way to make up my losses, so whenever he asked me to go grab a meal with him after this incident I would always make sure we ate at the dining hall. Prepaid meals where I could always grab more if he ate mine 😛 I guess he also told his roommate about the situation, and his roommate took my side because he knew how Mike could be. He was nice enough to have me over for pizza one night and said, “Girls don’t pay in this apartment,” and made Mike pay 50/50 with him. I thought that was very sweet of him, especially since they used to make Mike’s ex pay her fair share.

    What do you guys think? Was I right/wrong to ask him to split the price of the tempura? Would you have paid?

     
    • djtbs1 9:41 am on October 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I woulda paid a fair share. Mike sounds like a cheap bastard. I know someone just like him…. 😦

      T

    • Jules ♂ ♪ 10:50 am on October 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      Normally we ask for separate checks when we go out with friends. However, in the case that it’s not worth separating the check, it’s always a fight over who gets to pay the bill. Normally after we are done eating it’s the first person to make it to our server. Most times the server is literally getting credit cards thrown at them.

      The thing I hate is when someone tells the waitress beforehand that they are picking up the check, because then I won’t order what I want if it’s too expensive. I think most people feel this way, which is why we wait until after everyone is done before we try to pick up the check. I also have one simple rule that I use, if I pick the restaurant, then I pay. It seems only fair, because I tend to like places that are pricy.

      The thing I hate is when someone tells the waitress before hand that they are picking up the check, because then I won’t order what I want if it’s too expensive.

      • danniissoawesomelike 5:20 pm on October 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, my friends and I get separate checks a lot too. But in this case the tempura would have ended up on my bill still even though he ate most of it…

    • 10loladahl 12:59 pm on October 25, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      How… Odd.
      Just like you said, my situations have always been the other way: there’s always another person (and when I say person, I mean a guy) who offers to pay for the whole thing… Then there is the friendly fight of “oh, no… really… Let me pay my half”. Never, ever something like that have happened to me.
      I think you know you’re right :*

  • Dee 8:41 am on October 18, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Buffy, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Colonial, , , Glee, Jesus Christ, Jesus Christ Superstar, Jesus Christ Vampire Hunter, Joss Whedon, musicals, The Chosen One, The Slayer   

    56: Superstar and a Vampire Hunter?? 

    Hey tabbers! Now as you may have figured out by now, I am quite the fan of musicals. I love Glee, I work at a musical theater, etc. I am also a fan of Sci-Fi, especially anything by Joss Whedon like Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Firefly. A few days ago I was browsing my Netflix suggestions and Jesus Christ Superstar popped up because I like musicals or what have you. I gave it a decent rating and then moved on with my life. I had completely forgotten about it until I went on today and this was in my suggestions:

    Really, Hollywood? I mean, honestly… Who was the person who decided, “You know, Jesus Christ can already perform miracles, but he’s really lacking in the amazing department. We should have him kill vampires!!” Really? Or maybe people started forgetting about him and he was becoming a nobody, so they needed to change his image to make him relevant again. That must be it…

    I must admit, the idea made me laugh a little, but I started cracking up at the tag line: “The first testament says, “An eye for any eye.” The second testament says, “Love thy neighbor.” The third testament… KICK ASS!!!” This is one of the worst tag lines I’ve ever seen, but it’s so bad that it actually becomes good again. Not a clever sort of good, but entertaining.

    So that just really tickled my fancy. Also, I’m very excited to announce that we were mentioned on another blog:

    This can be found at: http://youeithergetitoryoudont.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=2713&start=390

     
    • Jules ♂ ♪ 11:00 am on October 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I really hope you know of “Dr. Horrible’s Sing-Along Blog” then. Joss Whedon + Musical =
      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dr._Horrible's_Sing-Along_Blog

      • danniissoawesomelike 5:22 pm on October 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply

        OMG, I ❤ Dr. Horrible! NPH and Nathan Fillion are my heroes so this movie is as awesome as they come!!

    • Roy 5:02 am on October 26, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      Its especially creepy if you consider that, by definition, Jesus WAS a zombie! He “rose from the dead”, so technically… He was a member of the undead. Was he hunting himself?

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