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  • scott howard 7:00 am on September 21, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , Cousins, directions, Drinking, driving, , Rain, Scott, Seattle, Weddings   

    40: A Wonderful Series of Unexpected Events? 

    So, I was just in Seattle this weekend for my cousin’s wedding. (I’m pretty sure that’s all that needs to be said.)

    …Just kidding.

    However, this past weekend has most definitely been an adventure story worth describing in fine detail. I would have to say a good bit of this following story will be something anyone can relate to as well as a great comedy of family events.

  • scott howard 7:00 am on September 14, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    35: On the phone long long distance… 

    Have any of you ever gotten yourself so caught up in something, a friendship, a relationship, or something else that seems so real and unique that you fail to see how your actions affect everything surrounding the situation?

    In my life, this kind of situation has happened repeatedly in varying forms. However, each time, I seem to be just a little bit more in tune to what has been going on. This most recent time, I have been so in tune with the situation that I was actually realizing the thoughts that were going through my head. I started noticing how irrational some of my actions really appeared to others when I thought they were perfectly logical and rational.

  • scott howard 7:00 am on September 7, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    30: It’s understood that hollywood sells californication 

    Did you ever notice how everybody involved in any given situation seem to present themselves in what they perceive to be their best light? Regardless of their surroundings or the people they are with, there always seem to be a few things that are held back. mostly, key elements that can help many bystanders figure out what that person is all about.

  • scott howard 7:00 am on August 31, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bullshit, Cake, Distance, flying   

    25: Reluctantly crouched at the starting line 

    Engines pumping and thumping in time…

    At least that’s how I feel right now. All revved up and still waiting for the green light so I can get going.

    Today is a very important day to me. No, there’s no other significance other than that which I have placed on it. It has been exactly one year since I have been flying for my own pleasure. Flying huh? Yes, some of you may be asking that. Well, I never mentioned it until now. Another interesting fact about me is that yes, I’m a pilot and since September of 2008, I have been working on obtaining my pilot’s certificate and enhancing it to a point where I can make money being a pilot.

    This past year has been up and down and had its rough spots for me. Mainly, because I got mixed up in this bullshit about how I didn’t give all the pertinent information to the A.M.E. about my entire life history of any medical issues or drugs taken. So now, (last year), this asshole who acts like a douche because he thinks that because he went to Berkeley, he can be a douche to everybody else, decided to call the FAA on me. So, this past year, I have been going through all kinds of loops with the FAA in order to get my Airman’s Medical Certificate reinstated. Yes, the certificate has been under review this past year. Hence, no flying.

    Well now, one year has passed and most of my situation has been resolved.

    The FAA wanted me to submit to them, an eye evaluation solely because of my history of strabismus (better known as the lazy eye). It ends up that my eyes haven’t changed very much since my last evaluation 12 years ago. I still have 20/15 vision in both eyes, uncorrected; and in all other aspects, my vision far exceeds any minimum requirements the FAA uses for medical certification.

    It’s been a long year so this post is showing up a bit late because I was taking time to reflect on my experiences this past year. I wanted to think about my understanding of things then, and my more educated understanding of things now. I think that in this past year, I have developed a different take on life. I seem to understand more about what life has to offer in a wider array of events and experiences. Nothing is completely about me, however, as things happen, I can take them in and make them all about me, or I can take them in and recognize that there is more to their purpose than I may shortsightedly recognize.

    To make a long story short. Life is too short to get angry and hold grudges about anything negative that happens to you.

    Life is about taking deep breaths, relaxing, being positive and productive and being the best you can be.

    Life is what you make of it.


    • dannifoley 9:03 pm on September 9, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      This song was played on the radio while I was at work today!

  • scott howard 7:00 am on August 24, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , golf, scuba diving, swimming, , vacation   

    20: A much needed vacation 

    As I mentioned last week, I was on vacation in beautiful Hawaii.

    The parents invited me out for a short five day visit to Maui. I think what I liked most about the vacation was being in a different environment which I hadn’t been to for a while. Well, in all of these short five days, I think we were able to pack a lot into them. Two of the days were taken up by golfing, another day by scuba diving with my dad and the remaining two days included chilling out at the condo working on a puzzle and hanging out at the pool/beach.

    Also, thanks to being single agian, being in Hawaii had its advantages, I didn’t feel like I needed to restrain myself in any way, and it allowed for me, the opportunity to start letting loose and reintegrating myself into the wide world of dating opportunities.

    I have always found that the hot tub, of all places, is a great location to meet all kinds of people. I had a couple different conversations with some kids and families who were visiting from California and I also met three friends who were visiting the islands from New York. That blew me away, I have never met anybody in Hawaii who came from New York. I just though all New Yorkers went to the Bahamas to get their tropical fix of a vacation. Regardless, I enjoyed meeting some new people and having some good conversations at the pool.

    Enjoying Drinks in "Tia Juana"

    There's nothing better than indulging yourself in the presence of a beautiful woman.

    I also mentioned some golfing. Well, I was rather surprised with myself. My golfing form, without even practicing, has improved, unfortunately, that doesn’t go for my score. I can hit the ball straight and I can keep up with a group, however, my score is still varied between 110 and 120 strokes, nowhere near a good game.

    Other than how I played, the golfing in itself was fun. My dad and I played in a foursome with two friends of my dad’s family. One thing I can say about golf, the golf course is the only place where it is legal to drink and drive. It was the first of two rounds of golf I played during the vacation, but as a group of guys, we all had fun. As always, after finishing the 18th hole, the four of us went to Tia Juana’s to kick back, have some drinks, chips and salsa and enjoy the pleasures of the 19th hole. We even got the hostess to join in with our antics. She was very fun.  🙂

    I golfed again on Tuesday afternoon, just dad and myself. We still had a fun round, but my score was better the first time I played. The second time, we definitely played a “hurry up” round of golf because we had also made a 4:30 dinner reservation on the other side of the island. We still had fun playing, but wow, we played fast. If an average game of golf is about 4:30, we definitely finished in about 3:30, a full hour ahead of the pace. That gave us time to shower before going to dinner at Mama’s Fish House.

    Just starting off with the Plantation Punch 🙂 YUM! So refreshing!

    Now THAT is what I call a stuffed fish! My mouth is watering just thinking about this dish again.

    Mama’s is probably the most expensive restaurant on Maui but they really do know their food. As a starter drink, I had their Plantation Punch, excellent tropical drink to kick you off. Then for the main course, I had the stuffed Mahi Mahi. YUM!

    However, its not just about the food at this restaurant, it’s about the view and the location. They are right on their own private beach with palm trees and a view of the afterglow from the sunset. Amazing!

    As much as I want to keep talking about food, I still must add one more event to this post. Its my way of saving the best for last. Scuba Diving. On Monday morning, dad and I got up early so we could get ready to meet up with the dive boat. It ends up that the dive company we were with always dive off the coast of Lana’i. The two dive sites we visited were Sharkfin Rock, at the southern-most tip of the island, and Cathedrals I (as it’s locally known).

    Like any other dive, I had the chance to see a lot of different fish and eels and coral that I don’t normally see. I even saw a very rare Hawaiian Turkey Fish, indigenous to Hawai’i. While on our second dive at Cathedrals, we were swimming with one of the many white tip reef sharks that hang out in the different dive spots.

    Playing with a Pacific Red Octopus.

    This picture to the left was taken at the very end of our first dive. One of the divemasters found a little octopus and picked it up to start playing with it. Of course it spit out all of its ink like it would normally do, however, after a while, I think it figured out that we weren’t going to eat it, we just wanted to play. So, here I am under about 60 feet of water playing with a little octopus. What surprised me the most was how soft and smooth they feel to the touch. Very peaceful. However, the strange sensation is feeling all its tentacles sucking onto you so it doesn’t go anywhere when you move. Whenever you get a chance while diving, play with an octopus, it really is fun and different.

    Well, I know I’m long winded and I really wanted to get this post out, so here it is for all to enjoy.

    Until next time. 🙂

  • scott howard 7:00 am on August 17, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    14: Stewing, licking wounds, and moving forward 

    I apologize for this post appearing so late. Along with being on vacation, I also have been trying to move past some personal issues.

    Yes, you might have guessed, this relates back to the ex-girlfriend situation.

    So, a few days after taking the ex out to lunch to celebrate her new job, I continued trying to be friends with her, considering she had said that she wanted to continue a friendship with me. I had been trying to be friendly and chatty via text message or phone call, however, she was all of a sudden not returning my phone calls or text messages.

    On Monday (yesterday), I sent her a couple of text messages and after no response, sent her a third message saying: “So, you’re not talking to me, huh?” Later in the morning, she responds with a text saying: “I can’t get over the fact that you tried to cheat on me. Our trust can’t be rebuilt and therefore there’s no reason for us to try to force a friendship.”

    Here’s my argument: Force a friendship? Whoah baby. You’re the one that wanted a friendship in the first place, even if we did break up. I was just following your lead. Second, I didn’t try to cheat at all. I was simply emailing people, but never met up with any of them or traded phone numbers. However, you had to stick your nose where it didn’t belong and you didn’t like what you found. Why be the sneaky insecure bitch who reads my emails behind my back and then holds me accountable when all of my interactions with you show you differently than what any of my emails may have suggested. Email is a very casual form of communication that in the end amounts to nothing if it never ends up being followed up by meeting in person. There is a quote I seem to remember, you might have forgotten it but I haven’t. It goes something like this: “Actions speak louder than words.” Try to remember that with the next sucker you date.

    Anyway, here is the text message that I sent back to her. This message is what I would say, the text that sealed the coffin. “Get off your good goody high horse Nancy Drew. If anyone should be pissed off, it should be me, but I’m not. You are the person who lacks the ethical integrity to keep her nose in her own business. I wasn’t going to cheat anyway. And whatever happened to the idea of the past is the past? Do you only use that theory on a whim when it suits your fancy?”

    I haven’t heard anything since.

    Well, I haven’t been pissed off at her, but I’m astonished that after making such a big deal about us remaining friends, that she would go and pull the rug out from under me without any warning. So, I have been dealing with this in a way similar to some of my old behaviors, I’ve been locking myself in my apartment and moping. I haven’t been doing anything constructive and in essence, letting myself self-destruct. It’s not the right way to deal with it, but I think I needed a few days to just be angry and silent and away from people.

    Thankfully, the parents are being helpful and in talking with them, I have been able to lift my spirits some and move past this situation. I have better things to do with my life than be angry about the past. The more I get out and do things and rebuild my personal life, the better off I will be.

    Tune in Next time when I write about my vacation from this week. (yes, I switched my post ideas around)

    ~ Scott

    • dannifoley 7:09 pm on August 24, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I’m sorry to hear the issues you’re having with your ex 😦 I had an ex pull some similar shit – he said if I were to ever break up with him to break up when we still had a chance of being friends, because he loved me so much he wanted to have me in his life even if it meant we were just friends. So, when things started to take a turn for the worst (he cheated on me, started treating me like his property, etc.) I broke up with him being able to forgive his behavior as friends but not able to continue dating him. For the first couple of days things were ok, then out of no where he turned on me and kept going on about what a bitch I was for breaking up with him and how he would never want to be friends with his ex. Then, the icing on the cake – he told his entire family (who I was *very* close with) that he broke up with me because I was an abusive alcoholic! I can’t make this stuff up.

      In other words, I know what you’re going through so if you need someone to talk to, you know where to find me!

  • scott howard 10:00 am on August 10, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: e-mail, Privacy, , space, Trust   

    08: Trust 

    Hi everyone!

    Today I want to discuss a little something that I’m sure everybody takes for granted upon first meeting someone. Trust. Would it not be agreed that trust represents a bond that connects two people? I think it does. Correct me if I’m wrong, but everybody places some level of trust in anybody they become acquainted with along the journey known as their life. Would you agree that upon becoming acquainted with someone, depending on your first impression of said person, you tend to gague the amount of trust to initially place upon this person? Let’s be honest here, I do it, you probably do too. I seem to place more trust in said person than I probably should, however, I keep my personal life a bit more guarded and private than some others do  initially. Maybe that’s why I do it.

    So, I just recently broke up with the girlfriend. She’s a sweet girl and she can be pretty fun to hang out with, however, she does have some traits that one doesn’t see or learn about initially. We are very similar in many ways and if some things were different, we would probably still be together today. To keep a long story short without all the long-winded reasons about why things ended, let me just say that we both figured out that we aren’t ready to commit to something more than friendship and the trust between us was broken more than once.

    I probably should have noticed at least one red flag before the trust boundary was broken, however, feeling the way I did about this person, I allowed her to say the right things to convince me things were alright. I should have been a bit more distant when I noticed her need for constant approval and how that need represented itself under the guise of “caring” and wanting me to be satisfied. That’s all beside the point of this discussion, but it leads into the meatier part of this discussion.

    Anyway, many people have said that for any relationship to last, it takes work. A relationship can’t survive solely on physical pleasures. Eventually, those pleasures become “old hat” if nothing new and spontaneous is introduced once in a while to spice things up. Well, as we were dating, the dynamic of our relationship slowly began to change. Slowly, some extra baggage worked its way into our dynamic, and it started to feel as if I was pulling about 75% of the weight needed to make things work. Pulling all this weight, I was starting to get tired, so I started looking for a second plan. This second plan involved looking online and possibly meeting someone different and new. During that process, I met one person whom I was talking with via email. We traded some G rated pictures and talked about personal interests and different observations we have made about different kinds of people. The subject of this email would have suggested something far different than what occurred, however, things happened the way they did.

    Trust in a relationship comes with the understanding that both partners respect each other’s personal space. I would say that e-mail falls under the personal space category. It’s usually password protected and if for some reason, the email is logged in when the partner wants to use their account, it would be understood that the partner would automatically log out of the acocunt and move on with their business. Well, this did not happen. I let my girlfriend use one of my laptops to check her email and apply for jobs at my place while I went to attend a study group with a classmate of mine. Upon coming back home, my girlfriend’s demeanour toward me had significantly changed. She neglected to tell me what was on her mind until two days later when she asked if I had been talking to people on craigslist. I replied no. Then she asked about a specific person and an email chain I had with that person. At this point, that email conversation had been finished for at least a couple weeks with no further communications. So, I then said yes, I talked to that person and had a conversation, but nothing more than the emails ever happened.

    In the back of my mind, I was thinking, Goddammit, this girl has the audacity to read through my emails, obviously looking for trouble and ends up finding it, behind my back! However, my reaction was way different, it was calm, reserved and logical. I should know by now that in any situation like this, when a man tries to be logical with a woman, it never works because women are never logical. That was red flag number 1. Here was my argument to counter hers. “You went through my email. That is my personal space and under no circumstances did you have permission to invade my privacy. Regardless of what you found in my emails, you violated my trust in you. Look at my actions before, during and after the time period of those emails. Have I been acting any different toward you? Have I shown any signs that I am not interested in this relationship? Then what motivated you to read through my personal emails? Huh? Why didn’t you just sign out like I did when I used your computer one morning after you went to work? Might I remind you that I AM NOT your Ex-Boyfriend, whose emails you read through multiple times and gave multiple chances to him, catching him in the same lie every time.”

    So, to her, we were officially broken up. To me, we were taking a break. I knew I wanted the relationship to keep going and I busted my ass to keep things going. She slowly warmed up to me again and ever so slowly, things started  to get warmer between her and I. Then about three weeks ago, red flag number 2 happened.

    Early on a Sunday morning, after having a pleasant weekend and movie night the previous evening, this girl blatently went through my emails behind my back again. No, I’m not the idiot that left my computer logged in again. This time, she went out of her way to access my emails via my iPhone. That was it. At that point, the wonderful Fool me once… Fool me twice… quote came to mind. That’s not the best part. Here is the icing on the cake, or should I say the biggest slap in the face ever. She blamed the fact that she was falling back in love with me as the reason why she went out of her way to check my emails behind my back. Talk about insecure for a 27 year-old who should know better, especially when I made a big deal up front (at the start of our relationship) to be open, up front and honest about anything that is on our minds. She could have just asked me if I was talking with or seeing anybody from craigslist. My response again would have been “No.” However, again, this girl goes through my emails and finds a conversation of 2 or 3 total emails that lasted 1 day from a month and a half prior to her checking my sh**. I don’t know about you, but a month and a half prior is old irrelevant news to me. It is cold and long forgotten. Before walking out of my apartment, her last words to me were: “We can’t trust eachother.” In my opinion, the quote should have more accurately been: “You can’t trust me because I will always check your emails whenever I feel insecure regardless of how long we have been together and no matter how honest we have tried to be with each other. I can’t let go of the past and move forward with things.”

    So, what is your take on this story and this topic?

    ~ Scott, fellow Tabber.

    • signorinabea 12:23 pm on August 10, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      She definitely violated your trust and your privacy. Good decision breaking it off with her.

    • dannifoley 6:50 pm on August 10, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I agree, e-mail is personal space. The only time it is ok to look at someone’s e-mail is with expressed permission! I do have one issue with your post, the line that reads: “women are never logical.” I can be very logical in an argument, and I am female – so don’t overgeneralize! 😛

      Other wise, yet another impressive post! Keep up the good work!

      • scott howard 9:24 pm on August 10, 2010 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, that comment about women never being logical was more of an emotionally driven comment.

        However, I have noticed that women can be more emotional than men and when their emotions are driving their thoughts, they are less likely to be emotional.

    • Mister Str8 Fwd 3:14 pm on August 13, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      Wow, you’d be surprised how many people go through situations just like yours. I cant agree with you more when you said there are things you dont initially know about the person. I’ve seen that unfold numerous times. It’s almost like two people try and mold each other to the others standards, just to get acquainted. But eventually the courtship part is over and the two go back to who they were before, thinking less and less of appearing great to their significant other. It’s crazy.

      Also I wanted to say I enjoy the use of pictures. It makes the passage easier to read and even more fun.

  • scott howard 1:00 pm on August 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply  

    02: I think I sold myself to the devil 

    …well, not really. I enjoy writing and expressing myself. This should be an interesting venture to say the least.

    Today is Tuesday, a very busy Tuesday I might add.

    I’m Scott, and I grew up in sunny Burbank, CA. I haven’t moved far considering that I live up the street from Universal Studios Hollywood. I feel very partial to Southern California and don’t believe that I would move anywhere else anytime soon. I may live local but I am definitely well traveled in this world. We will get to that in later posts.

    I like to sometimes refer to myself as a philosopher of life. I have been through many experiences and seen many others play out. I seem to find myself trying to solve other people’s problems when they are brought to my attention. Even when I’m better off just listening. I’ve been practicing my listening skills more. Either way, I do enjoy sharing some of my experiences as well for other people to reflect on and maybe offer suggestions for me. Yes, it’s a two way street here, I like to offer advice when requested, and I like to hear other bits of advice when offered to me.

    Well, I joined this “amazing” group of bloggers because it sounds like its full of fresh and new ideas. New inspiration and different perspectives of life from different people. This blog and its group of amazing bloggers, although small, have the task of bringing to light, the world as they see it. I’m looking forward to this new adventure and I’m already curious where it will take me.

    Until next week everybody!

    • dannifoley 9:51 pm on August 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      We haven’t finished going over the contract, so your soul isn’t mine just yet!
      Great post! I loved learning why you were interested in working with us! I look forward to your posts in the future!

    • weekendkeyboardwarrior 5:30 am on August 5, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      I look forward to reading what you have to say! Should be fun! 🙂

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